It’s the nature of humans to encounter those who feel they need to criticize, condemn, or complain about others. These are known as haters and critics, a special breed who seem to thrive on putting others down. Sadly, it seems like for women in STEM these folks are all too common.
I’d love to say that at some point this will end, but it won’t. The key to staying excited about your career it to learn to handle them without destroying your self-esteem. This is hard, and well worth the effort.
To get started pay attention to your thoughts and feelings around the situation. If you are finding yourself stressed, angry, and demoralized it’s time to get to work on gaining control again of your responses. Here three steps that will help you get started.
Dealing with critics and haters is a part of working so learning how to handle them can reduce stress, build confidence, and grow your credibility. When someone is a vocal critic, others see the behavior and are watching how you respond. Responding with professional, assertive techniques shows that you are aware of yourself, other’s behavior, and can respond appropriately.
Another benefit of paying attention to the criticism is that you can gain perspective that you wouldn’t have otherwise. It’s possible that something you have done had an unintended impact on the critic. While you didn’t intend harm, it may have been perceived that way. This is good to know so you can improve your performance. No one truly works alone; we all have interactions with others at some point in our day. How we handle them is key to our success and this includes the haters.
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